Depending on the difficulties you are facing, the central issues around those problems, and the factors which surround the marital challenges you are dealing with, marriage counseling is not the only option available to you. So, although it is one of the methods, other self help options might also work for certain couples, and marital issues they are struggling through.
Marital counseling is sometimes a good choice for newlywed couples.
Due to the fact that you do not yet know one another, or the things that cause tension in a relationship, a marriage counselor can assist you in learning and finding out what causes problems, so you will know how to resolve them with future arguments. When dealing with communication issues, problems like substance abuse, or extramarital affairs, an impartial marriage counselor, might be the perfect person to assist you through these problems, and help you come to a common ground, or at least begin to work through the issues you are dealing with.
Even though a marital counseling session, with a professional therapist or counselor, might be the solution in some instances, there is also the potential that it will cause an additional source of resentment between the couple that is already arguing. Due to the fact that you are already having marital problems, one spouse, who is opposed to counseling, is going to pick a fight and will have problems with the counseling solution. In this case, and with these couples, rather than turn to marital counseling as the first solution, other self help options are available to you.
Workbooks, marriage help books, one on one sessions, and various other self help methods are available to couples, who are struggling with problems in their marriage, as an alternative to counseling. You can purchase books and products that are specifically targeted and directed at the type of marital issues you are having. This allows the couple to work on the specific issues, and work on one problem at a time, as opposed to trying to fix every single issue in one sitting. Additionally, these self help products require the couple to sit down, write down and communicate the problems they are experiencing in the marriage, and require the couple to work together, to find the ideal solution. Not only will this help with issues in communications, it will also allow you to let out frustrations, and sources of resentment, that the couple would otherwise never discuss with a counselor.
Although marital counseling is a good option for some marital problems, it should not always be the first option, and in some instances, can cause more harm than good.
So, rather than calling a stranger, and possibly causing more of a rift in the marriage, you may want to consider working with your spouse, and using some of the self help options to resolve marital problems.