How to Be Happy in Marriage
Being happy in marriage is a choice two people make each and every day.
To help you and your spouse make the right choice every day, here are 3 things you should stop doing which will make it easier for you both to be and remain happy in your marriage.
Share them with your spouse and work on making them part of your everyday life – you’ll be much happier for it.
1. Stop complaining.
Complaining is one of the most negative things you can ever do in a relationship. Instead of complaining about the things that are going wrong and what you are lacking, take that time instead to be thankful for the things that are going right and what you do have.
This act of being grateful and talking about what is good, and what is abundant in your life – rather than complaining about the bad and what is lacking, will change your mindset and give you a much happier mindset.
2. Stop using negative words.
The habit of using negative words like “don’t” or “can’t” have the terrible effect of making everything seem dreary and dismal. Each one of us creates our own experience of the world we live in by the words that we focus on and which we communicate with.
The mere act of replacing those negative words with positive alternatives like “I will” and “I’m able” will help you both think about the good things in life and all the possibilities that are truly available. Bottom-line, it’s very hard to be negative when you purposely eliminate the negative words in your conversations. This positive attitude will “rub off” on your marriage and your spouse will truly be appreciative of getting rid of the depressing, “negative” you.
3. Stop worrying.
The act of worrying has absolutely no value, and all it does is make your life and your marriage miserable. This is particularly true when you are worrying about things that you have no control over… Take that time instead to think about the positive things in your life and your marriage. In fact, make a choice to only entertain those thoughts that make you happier and empower you.
All to often, we go around absorbing negative news and messages from TV, from the radio from a message someone posted on social media. We then proceed to start worrying about this new piece of information we received and we wonder if this new “terrible bit of news” will have an impact on our lives.
A perfect example of unnecessary worrying is what happens when you watch the news and start absorbing all the bad things that are going on around the world. Suddenly, all these tragedies that may be happening halfway around the planet are brought into your world and contribute to your worrying.
Stopping these three negative things will have a big positive impact on your marriage and help you be happier together.